“You need to have more fun.”, “You sound boring.”, “You need to go out more.”, “Why don’t you go to parties?”, “Why don’t you drink?”. These are just a few things that I hear when I tell people about my faith or beliefs or the things I don’t do. It’s the most gut wrenching feeling when people say these things to me. I opened up just a few days ago with someone I was working with and I got so many negative comments because I mentioned how I don’t go out or drink or anything along those lines. I just was in disbelief at how one person could make me feel like such crap for wanting to stay true to my morals and values.
I have also gotten comments like this when I tell people about how serious Nathan and I are in our relationship. I have gotten the comment of people saying that I need to date more guys. Why? Why would I just date other guys when I have someone so perfect right by my side already. Is it so wrong to have a different mindset as others when it comes to dating or marriage? I see so many people get so much crap because they’re ready to get married at a young age. I would love more than anything to just marry this man of mine. I feel like we are in a completely different place than other people our age and I see nothing wrong.. But this is a long story for another day.
I try so hard to explain to people why I don’t do certain things but it is just so hard because not everyone will understand. My whole reasoning is because it’s not something I find joy in. I remember going to a party in high school and just feeling so miserable being there. I couldn’t wait to leave. Mind you I only went to one party while in high school. Honestly, it’s just not for me. I wish I could understand how people find that fun.
I do think I grew up pretty fast. There was a lot going on in my family at one point in time and I realized there were a lot of things I didn’t want to do and couldn’t do because I didn’t want to cause anymore pain or hurt. My views really changed during these times and may have a lot to do with how I feel now.
I am really just tired of hearing people give me crap because I don’t go out. Let’s be real, I would much rather spend my time in and be with family making memories or going on an adventure to a new place and doing things to glorify God and share the gospel. That is what brings true happiness to me. Something that really matters. God will bring me happiness for all of eternity. These worldly things mean nothing in the end. Only God matters.
Recently I received a message from someone who told me I seemed like such an inspiring Godly woman. No one understands how amazing it felt to get that message. I felt like I was truly doing something right. God’s light is really shining through me and I love that I have been able to reach out to someone and show what God’s love can really do.
I am not ashamed to be the person I am. I am not ashamed that I don’t go out every weekend and party. I am not ashamed to be a believer. This is my life and I love every aspect of it. I choose the path that will bring me true joy and eternal love and happiness. I hope other people my age can see that life can be so great especially with Jesus in your heart.
Here’s a reference I can give to you after what I read last week in my devotional that goes great with my post.
Galatians 5:16-24 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; dolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
Self-control is the biggest factor! It’s having the self-control in order to be disciplined. I really want to dive more into this in another post. If you would be interested in that go ahead and leave a comment below!
I hope I can reach out to others and inspire you. I really want people to see what God can do and how he works in our lives. He is the way.